I saw a friend posted this as her FB status today: "One reason we struggle with insecurity: We're comparing our behind the scenes to everyone else's highlight reel."
That loaded statement now has me thinking of how it applies to me, to us, to our family (and lack thereof). Our behind the scenes is what matters. Mr. & Mrs. Rambler, in our home - our lives - our relationship - that's what matters to us. Everything else (including having children) is just added footage to our story. It's sometimes hard to remember that when we are in the throes of tragedy, difficulty, frustration, grief, stress, etc. Day-to-day existence takes our eyes away from the "prize" whatever it may be. We all know our "prize" and the importance of focusing on that.
Forget the insecurity that is bred from comparing our current selves to others. Everyone has a few different people within one - the wife, the worker, the infertile, the online friend, the IRL friend, the patient, the daughter, the sister, the aunt, and more. There are many hats we all wear as our individual selves. So, in the end, what really matters? That is what we need to remember. And I work every day to remind myself of that.