After my long shittay day, I'm just getting to catch up on today's posts. In response to the basic question, my answer is NO. I do not feel used. For some ladies, this may be the only resource they have for information. I don't care if they have 5 posts or 5000 posts. Without getting religious here, I feel like part of the reason I'm going through all of this crap is to help others in the same situation.
Now, if it's some drive-by bfp, then those ladies can just go fvck themselves for being stupid, rude, and insensitive. The thought that a bunch of women struggling with IF would be overjoyed for a complete stranger, then that's just craziness.
I've been at this for what will be four years next week. I've been through hell and back and through it again (as most of us have). I was around before we championed the start of this board, and I'm still here. Yes, I wish I weren't, but there isn't a whole lot I can do about it outside of tons of money I don't have for a GC or by stealing a baby.
We are all at different points in our own journeys, and who am I to judge who "needs" the most support? I don't need more friends (I have a ton); I've been in a sorority; I went through high school, and all of that stuff. While, yes, there are some circles of women that are closer than others, that's life. People are going to click with some better than others. We are all adults here & I would only expect that behavior. If someone comes here in hopes of getting answers that we can't give them, then so be it. They can go ahead and call me (us) mean and bitter. I can't give someone a baby any more than I can make one myself. IMHO, it's all in the approach of what one says and how it is said it. I'm not a b|tch until you piss me off and hurt those I love.
This may come across as a bit crass, but that's okay. I'm not angry or upset by this post. Maybe I'm just old, bitter, and jaded. I know what my future holds and know that my dreams may not come true. However, if I can help other ladies with questions, support, thoughts, resources, or whatever they need, I'll do what I can in the time I have available. That makes it almost a little worth it to be on this sucky road. /diatribe /soapbox
As I said to another member of that board who is an IRL friend, "(Am I) bitter much? Probably. Do I like wine? Definitely." Let's focus on what's important here, people! :)